No one likes confrontation. How do you approach some one when you want to resolve a conflict with him/her? Conflict is not always a bad thing. Conflicts tell us that something is out of synch. The focus should be on resolving the conflict - not about berating the other person. There is something called “the right approach to conflict.”
A healthy way to open up the discussion is to start with "I" statements. That means expressing how the issue is affecting you. This approach opens the communication with out an aggressive tone. The point is that you are trying to resolve the conflict, not berate or put down the other person. Beginning with “you always” or “you never…” just puts the other person on the defense. During a conflict, we often make false assumptions about the other person. But when you check out these assumptions, they are usually not true.
As long as you keep the focus on the issue, and away from blame, you have a good chance of reaching a healthy resolution. Don’t be afraid of confrontation! If handled correctly, it really clears the air.